tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599161450506060548.post7831845914111159770..comments2024-01-24T18:33:04.790-08:00Comments on Smythologies: BachelorsKarin Spirnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02431240000259421369noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599161450506060548.post-77915918143168076812010-02-08T13:21:04.950-08:002010-02-08T13:21:04.950-08:00I've read excerpts of that article before. Tha...I've read excerpts of that article before. That lady can't see the forest for the trees when she says that Will and Grace depicts her ideal couple. Right! Your friends are better life partners than someone who you are supposed to be in love with. Sorry, lady, but you said it yourself. <br /><br />Think about the men you've been with...imagine your life with them--PERMANENTLY--and then think about how comforting and romantic that would be.Karin Spirnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02431240000259421369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599161450506060548.post-25667307556235800622010-02-08T13:00:35.994-08:002010-02-08T13:00:35.994-08:00I just came across this somewhere else, and now I&...I just came across this somewhere else, and now I'm kinda depressed: http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200803/single-marryKrystalnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599161450506060548.post-54829627323904734162010-01-14T23:19:13.980-08:002010-01-14T23:19:13.980-08:00Somehow the ending "-ette" never seems t...Somehow the ending "-ette" never seems too dignified.Karin Spirnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02431240000259421369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599161450506060548.post-90165727422757361452010-01-12T19:39:22.751-08:002010-01-12T19:39:22.751-08:00I am right along with this! there has to be a bett...I am right along with this! there has to be a better word to compliment the female bachelor than bachelorette though... hmmmamanda gohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00702004384717235527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599161450506060548.post-89502540868261744312010-01-11T13:40:41.981-08:002010-01-11T13:40:41.981-08:00Huh, I suppose you were kind of a cougar in colleg...Huh, I suppose you were kind of a cougar in college. Maybe it has some kind of genetic correlation with the eyes and the toes. I have green eyes and shorter middle toes (I had to take off my shoes and check), and what limited predatory instinct I have has never been aimed at younger men.Karin Spirnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02431240000259421369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599161450506060548.post-40854612629413590702010-01-10T22:08:54.849-08:002010-01-10T22:08:54.849-08:00I have been a cougar since the age of 18, so I fin...I have been a cougar since the age of 18, so I find it funny that there are even seminars now that will "teach you" to become one. In my mind, you're pretty much born with the cougar instinct or not, like brown eyes or longer middle toes (I have all 3).Melindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06725397033078189660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599161450506060548.post-43892564327930302802010-01-09T10:58:25.286-08:002010-01-09T10:58:25.286-08:00Ewww, Krystal! :) I do not want to think of eithe...Ewww, Krystal! :) I do not want to think of either "Nelson" or "Prospero" having sex on a leather couch (unless maybe it's with each other, that would be sort of cool). <br /><br />I'm glad you remember this weird conversation as well so I know I didn't make it up.Karin Spirnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02431240000259421369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599161450506060548.post-52357834592642135612010-01-08T18:37:32.653-08:002010-01-08T18:37:32.653-08:00love it! I remember the occasion you describe clea...love it! I remember the occasion you describe clearly, and my thought at the time was, like you said, that leather couches are easy to clean; especially convenient if they are getting a lot of "action". ha!Krystalnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599161450506060548.post-60267017903996260602010-01-08T17:40:06.365-08:002010-01-08T17:40:06.365-08:00Good point. If someone ever calls me a cougar, I&...Good point. If someone ever calls me a cougar, I'll take it as a compliment!Karin Spirnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02431240000259421369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599161450506060548.post-57096101315533185982010-01-08T17:02:35.805-08:002010-01-08T17:02:35.805-08:00I agree with Erin about cougars-- the term is cert...I agree with Erin about cougars-- the term is certainly sexist in the way it's generally deployed, but I think a lot of the derision is based on cultural fears of powerful older women. It reminds me a little bit of cultural fears of witches in the 17th century-- accusations of witchcraft were frequently leveled at women who were a little too independent and powerful for the comfort of polite society.Jessicanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599161450506060548.post-43088813449830446022010-01-08T16:24:40.105-08:002010-01-08T16:24:40.105-08:00I think you're right, Erin--cougar is better t...I think you're right, Erin--cougar is better than spinster for sure. <br /><br />About my bachelor women friends, Jessica: I have wondered the same thing. I tend to think it's cultural...but of course there's no way of knowing. But there is a lot of pressure for women to want a permanent partner. When I tell people that I don't necessarily want one, they assure me that not only do I want one, but I "deserve" one.Karin Spirnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02431240000259421369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599161450506060548.post-66571360917224398922010-01-08T11:43:31.383-08:002010-01-08T11:43:31.383-08:00I would argue that the concept of a cougar, while ...I would argue that the concept of a cougar, while still relatively ridiculous and constraining, is at least more diverse than what we had before: a single sexless designation for single women 'of a certain age'. It may not be much, but at least it is a step toward variety in how we view unmarried women, as well as a chance of playing a more empowered role. <br /><br />Although the cougar concept may not be socially acceptable in some ways, the idea of an older woman who doesn't follow traditional roles or rules, who seemingly takes what she wants, who is sexually potent and who presumably has younger conquests, is much more powerful than that of an 'old maid' who one assumes is only unmarried because she was not desirable to anyone. <br /><br />We still view cougars with some derision certainly, and for the most part they are portrayed as a caricature, but it still seems more positive than the concept of spinsterhood, which is a role of passivity and rejection.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17365866927009987398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3599161450506060548.post-61057850238939431042010-01-08T10:37:19.129-08:002010-01-08T10:37:19.129-08:00I loved this entry. I wish you had explored your ...I loved this entry. I wish you had explored your thoughts about why "bachelor" women seem to pay more lip service to the idea of relationships than bachelor men... do you think it's nature or nurture?Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05597636818521427088noreply@blogger.com